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disabledxena:

"We can’t use A in our acronyms because it allows shitty allies to weasel themselves in!"

Perhaps if the lgbtqia community prioritized and cared more about ASEXUALS than about straight allies, we wouldn’t have this problem.

The A is not for allies. It has never been for allies. The A is for aces. Do not rob actual members of the lgbtqia community of the little representation we have for the sake of fucking straight people. 

The A is fucking necessary. 

(Source: saxas)

nakedcuddles:

appropriately-inappropriate:

vickiexz:

penjolina:

piddlebucket:

randomstabbing:

hilariousslut:

aliveforalittlewhile:

warcrimenancydrew:

historywhore:

warcrimenancydrew:

do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?

This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.

^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.

In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.

It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.

I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.

“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.

“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.

Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.

same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM

when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,

and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.

so of course i came back with

moving out of the way for them as i walked.

he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.

i find this really fascinating because this actually what defines so-called masculine and feminine traits and gestures. the whole limp-wrist thing? that’s someone decreasing the amount of space they take up by not extending their arm fully. same with crossing one’s legs, how it’s considered more masculine to swing your shoulders when you walk creating a wider gait instead of your hips, how someone who holds their elbows tightly into their torso instead of letting them fall more loosely at their sides is considered feminine.

taking up space is not just a frequent habit of males in our culture, its actually how society thinks masculinity is supposed to be expressed.

It’s also why you can seriously freak people out if you’re a woman by sitting back in your chair and draping your arm over the backrest of the one beside it.

Try it.

It’s claiming space, and more importantly, it’s powerful body language. In primates (including humans), the individual that “opens” its chest—that is, leaves it open to attack—is the most dominant of them, precisely because it shows a confidence that no one WILL attack you.

Look at someone who’s comfortable vs someone who’s uncomfortable—the uncomfortable person will inevitably cross their arms or cover their chest to in an instinct to protect the thoracic cavity.

So, when you want to look HELLA confident, open up your chest and make direct eye contact. It feels weird (for women!) at first, but it’s the fastest way to freak a dude out. They genuinely do not know what to do when a woman displays behaviour they recognize as confident.

This was interesting. Literally never thought about it before. 

Sexualities/Genders (And Other Terms One Should Know)

  • Heterosexual:

    Male-identifying individual sexually attracted to a female-identifying individual, and vice-versa.

  • Homosexual:

    Someone attracted to someone of the same gender as themselves.

  • Bisexual:

    Sexually attracted to two or more genders.

  • Polysexual:

    Sexually attracted to many genders, but not all.

  • Pansexual:

    Sexually attracted to all genders. (this and bisexual, and sometimes polysexual, are often considered to be the same thing and different people may simply identify as any one of them due to their own personal reasons)

  • Demisexual:

    Sexually attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.

  • Asexual:

    Having no /sexual attraction/ to others; having no desire to have sex.

  • Heteroromantic:

    Male-identifying individual romantically attracted to female-identifying individuals, and vice-versa.

  • Homoromantic:

    Attracted romantically to the same gender.

  • Biromantic:

    Attracted romantically to two or more genders

  • Polyromantic:

    Attracted to many genders (but not all)

  • Panromantic:

    Attracted romantically to all genders

  • Demiromantic:

    Romantically attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.

  • Aromantic:

    Having no /romantic attraction/ to others; having no desire to be in a romantic relationship.

  • Polyamorous:

    Someone who is attracted to, and is comfortable with being in a relationship with more than one person at a time.

  • Transexual/Transgender (Term depending on generation and location):

    An individual who identifies as a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth to be. Often shortened to trans

  • Cisgender:

    Someone who identifies as the gender that they were assigned as at birth. (ex. matches their birth certificate) Often shortened to cis

  • Intersex:

    Someone who has ambiguous genitalia that doesn't fit into our strict dichotomy of uterus or testes. Often forced into surgery to correct their genitals at a very young age, causing psychological and physical harm later in life

  • Nonbinary:

    Outside of the gender binary of male and female. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity)

  • Genderqueer:

    Outside of the gender binary. (**This is not an umbrella term like the post said before I edited it! Do not use this as an umbrella term for nonbinary individuals, simply use 'nonbinary'. Queer is considered a slur and not everyone likes to be associated with the word)

  • Agender:

    Someone who feels gender neutral, or someone who experiences a 'lack' of gender.

  • Bigender:

    Someone who identifies as two separate genders.

  • Trigender:

    Someone who identifies as three separate genders.

  • Genderfluid:

    A gender that changes, or is 'fluid'.

  • Demigirl:

    Identifying partially as a woman, but not wholly.

  • Demiboy/guy:

    Identifying partially as a man, but not wholly.

  • Dmab:

    Designated Male at Birth.

  • Dfab:

    Designated Female at Birth.

  • Amab/Afab:

    Same as dmab/dmab, except with 'assigned' instead of 'designted'.

  • Camab/Cafab:

    Same as previous, except prefixed by 'coercively', to highlight the lack of choice.

  • Reblog to inform! And if there's any I missed or anything that should be clarified, please message me! Always looking to expand the proper vocab. :

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  • **I edited this post because it used some archaic and incorrect terms/definitions, and needed more terms added to it. -Vivian Mareepe

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I hate when people say that war is a worse crime than rape, first, they're not seperate, rape is a crime of war and up until super recently was not considered a war crime. Also, up until less recently, only men fought wars, yet more women died than men, and more people were raped than killed. Also, getting your house blown up, or your city burned down doesn't take away your atonomy, even murder doesn't because the nature of dying is no consent, but thats not the nature of life.

rapeculturerealities:

Actually, women have always fought in wars, though you wouldn’t know it because the traditional narrative has been one that only represents men.

To “rank” crimes is pretty senseless anyway.  There is no competition to see who suffers most.  When any one of us hurts, we all hurt.  Much like Richard Dawkins attempting to put different kinds of sexual assault on a scale from worst to best, it’s ridiculous to split hairs when it comes to atrocities like rape and war.  The impact of one is not diminished by that of another.

Rape is very commonly used as a tool of war, you are correct. Rape is also used as a tool of oppression and control in our every day lives.  Living with the ever looming threat of sexual violence causes us to restrict the way that we live our lives in order to “keep safe”.  It makes sense that if rape is used to subjugate and control us in a civil setting, war would intensify this (as it does all other things).

Also, as mentioned in the article linked above; "Rape is often used in ethnic conflicts as a way for attackers to perpetuate their social control and redraw ethnic boundaries, she said.

"Women are seen as the reproducers and carers of the community," she said

"Therefore if one group wants to control another they often do it by impregnating women of the other community because they see it as a way of destroying the opposing community."

Compare that line of thinking, that women are the heart of the community and therefore the key to breaking a community, to the everyday violence that women face and you’ll see one of the driving forces of rape culture at work.

-Spider-

findingmyrecovery:

You are not going in circles

You are making progress in a spiral. You do come back around to where you were at the start, since recovery and healing take time, but every time you come back around to that point you’re a little higher up because you’ve got more experience, more knowledge, and more strength.

You ARE making progress

thewitchesofmisspelled:

hellboundwitch:

MisSpelled is the tale of five very different young women who must learn to work together after they mysteriously acquire magical powers.

The girls will have to save themselves and each other from their own magical mistakes. A dark comedy with lives on the line, MisSpelled is a thrilling and comical journey for five young women who aren’t necessarily down for the ride. With a new dark presence growing in power, will they be able to save themselves from impending doom? They don’t know, but they can google it.

An exciting adventure with mystery, murder and magic! MisSpelled is not your typical witch show. With a diverse cast, comedy and thrilling twists — MisSpelled is something you need to see to believe. 

Y’all. Remember how excited we were about MisSpelled? “A new show about witches? Witches of colour, even?? And it’s not even my birthday, or Halloween!!”

Well, they’ve posted everything they’ve got to youtube — a promologue, and four episodes — and now they’re running a Kickstarter campaign to fund the rest of the series. If it’s not successful, then we don’t get any more of the show. Which would suck.

I am asking you guys — begging you, even — to go support the Kickstarter if you can. If every one of my followers pledged $20, then they’d be funded immediately. But even if you can only spare $5, that still gets you thanks on the website and a download of the music from the show!

There are several $12 Charm Bag Tiers, each based around a different character. The charm bags include a tarot card with the character on it (you can see an in-progress sketch of some of the art for the cards in the photoset), a bloodstone, a spell written by the character, and some charms.

And for $20, you can pick a charm bag, get thanked on the site, download the music and the first season after its finale.

Even if you can’t pledge, signal boost this. Go watch the show on youtube. Tell everyone! We have 19 days and counting to make this a success.

Fly my pretties~

hellboundwitch = queen.

Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.

Mary Pipher, Clinical Psychologist and Author, Reviving Ophelia (via sunshine-machine)

this should have been reblogged a million times already.

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And remember, they are socialized to accept rape culture as “masculinity” and “normal.” This isn’t inherent biology. So they can be socialized away from it. This quote = everything.

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